Author: AKM Nivrito

  • Event: The Shift Space

    Event: The Shift Space

    Research says: Yes. Emotional Intelligence – your ability to perceive, understand, and manage emotions effectively – is closely linked to higher salaries and career success (Sanchez-Gomez et al., 2021).

    Join us – facilitators Grace Hu and Gijs van Wezel in an interactive, in-person workshop which blends psychological insight with practical coaching to help you uncover your dominant energy patterns: Driver, Collaborator, Visionary or Organizer.


    Explore how to harness your natural strengths while developing underutilized energies. Through interactive, participant-led activities, we create a safe space to deepen self-awareness, share perspectives and translate insights into actionable growth – both professionally and personally.


    • Building Resilience in a Changing World
    • The Benefits of Knowing Yourself
    • Reframing Mindsets for Growth
    • Work-Life Balance: Beyond the Buzzword

    Participants can vote on these themes or suggest new ones.


    Date

    Session 1: Thursday, 10 July 2025
    Session 2: Thursday, 28 August 2025


    Time

    9:00 AM – 12:00 PM


    Location

    Kuala Lumpur (TBC)


    Fees

    One session: RM350
    Both sessions: RM500


    Light refreshments will be provided.


    Program is fully HRDF claimable upon confirmation.


    Limited to 10–15 participants to allow depth, trust, and shared learning.

  • Communication Choices: Harnessing Energy Patterns in Negotiations

    Communication Choices: Harnessing Energy Patterns in Negotiations

    Former Manchester United football coach, Van Gaal, often emphasized the critical nature of choices his players made in ball possession and field positions. The energy expended and the potential game-changing consequences of incorrect decisions were always at the forefront.

    In our daily lives, both personally and professionally, we encounter similar choices. Consider the draining interactions with family or colleagues; often, we’re oblivious to the implicit decisions being made, overshadowed by ingrained habits and negative expectations.

    Recently, I had the privilege of leading an HRDC training session for a diverse group of participants. The feedback was overwhelmingly positive.

    The session featured a negotiation case study and a self-assessment of work behaviour. Through group reflection, we dissected how different choices could have led to more favourable negotiation outcomes.

    This training is designed to cultivate awareness and practical skills in making conscious choices. I strongly encourage managers to prioritize such training for themselves and their teams. Beyond its practical benefits, my previous group attested to its enjoyable nature.

  • Empowering Growth: Lessons from ‘The Inner Game of Tennis’ for Parents, Managers, and Coaches

    Empowering Growth: Lessons from ‘The Inner Game of Tennis’ for Parents, Managers, and Coaches

    There may be lessons to be learned for parents, managers, and career/life coaches from reading the book “The Inner Game of Tennis” by W. Timothy Gallwey. This classic book advises less focus on the technique of tennis for beginning player. Having received technical advice can make it hard to even hit a ball for the first time (tennis, padel or golf). The author describes a situation that I have experienced as a tennis teacher myself.

    I admit to ‘overteaching’ as a new pro, but one day when I was in a relaxed mood, I began saying less and noticing more. To my surprise, errors that I saw but didn’t mention were correcting themselves without the student ever knowing he had made them. How were these changes happening? Though I found this interesting, it was a little hard on my ego, which didn’t quite see how it was going to get its due credit for the improvements being made. It was an even greater blow when I realized that sometimes my verbal instructions seemed to ‘DECREASE’ the probability of the desired correction occurring.

    Gijs van Wezel

    As a former tennis coach, this resonates a lot with me. As a professional career/life coach, I have learned over the years that allowing clients to find their own strength can be transformative, whereas advising may, at best, be transactional.

    The point is that allowing children, students, managers, and coaching clients to discover their natural way and positively supporting this journey could be more effective than micromanaging.

    My grandsons will not receive “overteaching” tennis advice, and I will continue to support my coaching clients through active listening, empowering perspectives, and facilitating growth.

  • Discovering the Power of Life Coaching

    Discovering the Power of Life Coaching

    Doubt, in its many forms, can unexpectedly shape our lives, leading to missed opportunities and lingering regrets. This realization struck me profoundly when, around 40, I made a pivotal decision to part ways with my business partners and embark on a journey of self-discovery.

    Having spent years immersed in the world of entrepreneurship, I found myself suddenly liberated from its pressures, with newfound time for my family and personal passions. Yet, amidst this freedom, I faced the daunting task of reinventing my purpose. The path forward was obscured by well-meaning but unsolicited advice, leaving me yearning for a compassionate, experienced listener to guide me through the tumultuous terrain of self-reflection.

    Through introspection and perseverance, clarity gradually emerged. I discovered that my gift for active listening, honed through years of navigating the complexities of business and personal growth, held the potential to empower others in their own journeys. Thus began my transition into life coaching—a role where I could leverage my experiences to help individuals and organizations uncover their authentic selves and embrace their unique contributions to the world.

    Since then, I’ve had the privilege of working with countless individuals and companies, witnessing firsthand the transformative power of coaching and team facilitation. Guiding others as they navigate life’s uncertainties and discover their true passions has become not just a profession, but a deeply fulfilling vocation.

    Life coaching is more than guidance; it’s a catalyst for personal and professional evolution. By providing a supportive environment and drawing from my own journey, I empower clients to overcome obstacles, make informed decisions, and ultimately, lead lives aligned with their deepest values and aspirations.

    In a world where doubt and uncertainty abound, the role of a life coach is invaluable. Together, we can navigate the complexities of life, uncover untapped potential, and create a future filled with purpose and fulfillment.

  • Facilitation based on two prinicples

    Facilitation based on two prinicples

    Facilitation based on two principles, passion and responsibility, worked really well this week for a group of 8 Asian country directors and 6 functional leads. The objective was to achieve increased profitability through “regional collaboration.”

    The office meeting room would have assumed an attitude of business as usual. Therefore, I proposed an off-site venue: a newly opened padel center on top of a shopping mall. We started the day with a social ball game called padel, which was new to everyone and created a fun and collaborative spirit.

    The actual meeting facilitation is called “Open Space.” The self-organising nature of this process is highly effective for addressing complex and urgent issues. Within half a day, 8 self-chosen plans were discussed and action plans were developed. The participants labeled the meeting format as empowering and effective, as the passion for the topics drove the process and the clarity of responsibility for the plans ensured work was accomplished.

    It was an honor to facilitate such a meeting again for this multinational group, and I hope to have inspired other leaders to utilise this meeting format for their complex and important business meetings.

  • What makes China challenging: Creating trust

    What makes China challenging: Creating trust

    Are you a professional working in China? What you’re about to read might seem strangely familiar. That’s because, unfortunately, you’re not the only one suffering from this problem. What are we talking about exactly? Low trust levels among colleagues in international teams.

    We’ve worked with a number of companies and educational institutions in China. Most of the people we help are people working in China between the ages of 26 and 36. Our clients might be very different but common issues run throughout.  

    Big egos. Competing for promotions. Considering colleagues incapable. Whatever the motives behind not trusting each other are, the end result is the same. Lack of collaboration in team environments. Without a foundation of trust a healthy team environment is impossible.

    These challenges are multiplied in international and intercultural environments. But what does this actually mean in everyday office life? Lack of cohesion leads to ineffective teams that can’t work as one. People end up working only for themselves.  Teams that do not challenge each other on plans and approaches produce weaker outcomes. In an environment with no trust, diversity in talents and experience will not be getting used to it’s full potential.

    The ways in which a lack of trust manifests itself in the workplace vary widely. But put simply, trust is as important for a company as it is for a family. Without it, everyone is pulling apart rather than pushing together. Trust is the foundation upon which everything else is built, not only a company’s future but also your relations in the workplace.

    However, that’s enough about the problems. I’m sure you have your own examples. However, from my experience, I believe that very few people actually have bad intentions. People lack trust because they are stuck in an unhealthy routine. The big question, how do we work together to break the cycle and begin constructing a healthier work environment? Building trust will make the workplace more productive, open and fun.

    Funnily enough, the first step is a change of environment altogether. Get out of the office. Why do we take our clients to our lake house on the outskirts of Shanghai? Because it’s not the office and it certainly beats the boardroom! In all seriousness, a relaxed setting like this helps people to open up and talk about the real issues.

    As much as we’d enjoy it, our lake house sessions don’t just involve chilling out by the water. Prior to taking part in a workshop we ask the group to think about some behaviour they have exhibited in the past. We often discover that this behaviour is automatic behaviour. What does this mean? Automatic behaviour is not real individual heartfelt responses, but rather the behaviour that is the accepted norm in certain situations.

    Automatic behaviour is not always helpful. If you just adapt to the accepted past patterns in your workplace, and ‘the way things are done around here’, it’s difficult to create a brighter future. This is called ‘coping’, and it’s just that… coping without really excelling. Building a foundation of trust is a large step towards creating an environment in which everyone can excel and perform to their potential. Getting out of the office, and working together can help to break the norms of so-called automatic behaviour. Suddenly, a lack of trust may not be a core characteristic of your team for much longer.

    At our workshops we use a combination of exercises involving both the whole group and smaller clusters. The more you put into the workshop, the more you and your colleagues will get out.

    Our workshops are fully driven by you. You choose the issues. We guide the solutions. Open up, learn from yourself and your colleagues. Pull together to create an environment in which trust is at the core. The ultimate goal is a return to a more cohesive and productive workplace.

    Do you spend 8 hours a day coping? Does your team suffer from a lack of trust? Or do you simply think there is room for improvement in the way your team works? Why not come along to our next lakeside workshop near Shanghai on May 15th-16th and see how we can help you.

  • What makes China challenging: Information sharing

    What makes China challenging: Information sharing

    Is information in your workplace shared effectively? I wouldn’t be surprised if you have your doubts. In previous blogs we talked about a lack of trust. The sharing of information is closely intertwined with this issue. Likewise, resolving this problem will make leading teams in China more effective. It really should be a priority.

    Information may not be shared at all, or not shared fully and honestly. If I can’t benefit, why would I let a colleague tap into my skills, resources and experiences? It’s a common thought, one that you’ve probably had, but in the end it’s not helpful for anyone.

    I’ve been working in China for a long time. One of my previous logistics managers provides a case in point.  He got a kick out of people coming to ask him directly for help. The end result? His information system collapsed when he wasn’t around the workplace, and nobody else could distribute the required information.

    In a similar vein, I’ve seen negative information not being shared so as to avoid showing weakness. A US colleague of mine once asked a Chinese colleague about production problems both parties knew existed. The Chinese colleague refused to admit that any issues existed. Why? It was more preferable to him to solve the problem independently without showing weakness.

    What actually happens in the office when information is not shared properly? Think clique forming, scapegoating, incapable leaders… the list goes on. Information becomes a closely guarded resource and those who hold it, hold the power.

    Office politics begin to dominate behaviour. Colleagues may be willing to share information with bosses. But sharing with equals or those lower than us? Of course not! Politics like this not only creates inefficiency, but also unhappiness.

    Ok, enough about the problems. What do we do about it? We should start by asking ourselves two questions. First, what type of leader do I want to be? Secondly, what type of culture do I want to create?

    If we do realise that a change is needed, what do we do? I like to emphasise one word – transparency. From running my own business in China, I’ve learnt countless useful techniques that can be used to resolve these problems.

    In our tailor-made-workshop series, we emphasise the advantages of being transparent. We use role-plays, games and group dialogues. We want people to be able to speak freely without being subject to the limitations of an office environment. Real change will happen step-by-step and reaches more people every step.

    Problems surrounding information sharing may or may not exist in your workplace. In addition, different workplaces and different colleagues will look upon the issue very differently. Like many things we’ve discussed in recent weeks, the first step on the ‘route to resolution’ is getting the problem out in the open.

    Do these problems sound familiar? Or do you simply think there is room for improvement in the way your team works? Why not give your team the chance to change as a Lanxess Changzhou team did with a lot of enthusiasm!

  • Facilitating the facilitators in Kuala Lumpur

    Facilitating the facilitators in Kuala Lumpur

    A divers team of 12 participants, part of ‘Initiative of Change’ in Kuala Lumpur, wanted to learn ‘How to Facilitate?’ in a Train-the-Trainer workshop

    Approach

    First step in this approach was to let the participants in small groups define the various purposes and target audiences to be facilitated. The second part consisted of two groups working on a co-created workshop design, while choosing suitable elements of a provided toolbox of techniques.

    Outcome

    Already one participant has successfully carried out a first designed workshop.

  • Creating open dialogue within an international bank

    Creating open dialogue within an international bank

    A regional branch of an international bank experienced that direct and publicly shared feedback is not welcome in Asian tradition yet the bank required to improve plans and to build on available talents and experiences

    Approach

    During two 2-day we brought people from different offices and departments together. The first priority was to create common ground through sharing challenges and peak work performances. To create a better understanding individual reflections were shared and complemented by active listening partners.

    Outcome

    Consensus and prioritized action plans in a relatively short time span. By openly claiming ownership participants became accountable for securing further implementation.

  • From silos to collaboration at Dorel Juvenile

    From silos to collaboration at Dorel Juvenile

    Dorel Juvenile expressed their need for change from silo-based working teams towards client orientated cross-functional teams

    Approach

    In nine workshop days 75 employees and managers collaborated on the topic of working in cross-functional teams. One of the venues had a view on the historical walking bridge connecting Hong Kong with Shenzhen. While using the Open Space Technology method critical issues were identified and 19 ‘topic-owners’ stepped forward to lead the dialogue, create minutes and action plans.

    Outcome

    Before their teamwork had similarities to Ping-Pong; issues were passed on from one department to the other. Now they experienced a different concept of teamwork more similar to football; cross-functional teams working together to one goal. And to solve complex problems at hand through cooperation and each other’s expertise.